The root of happiness is found in truth. Truth about who you are and what is important to you.
Expecting someone else to ‘make you happy’
No one can make you happy – you need to do that yourself. Happiness starts with you – take a look.
Here are some common obstacles to happiness:
Not knowing yourself
When we don’t take the time to develop self-awareness – we are missing a key piece of our happiness. How would you describe yourself – your strengths, your passions or your skills? What inspires you and excites you? How can you be happy when you don’t know what fulfills you?
Disconnected from your emotions
We sometimes choose not to allow our emotions to surface. We put on a façade to get along in the world. What we really feel is buried deep down inside so we go through the motions of living our lives without allowing ourselves to feel the highs and lows. It’s like living in black and white versus color.
Not setting personal boundaries
When we let others take advantage of us, be rude or disrespectful to us in any way, they cross a boundary. If you haven’t defined your own boundaries, people won’t know what they are and they will continue to upset you.
What are you prepared to accept or not accept and how have you communicated that to others?
Not speaking up for what you want
How often do you sacrifice your own needs to help someone else? Sure, we can do that once in a while, but not all the time. In doing so, your own needs get buried. They will eventually come to the surface and we often blame others for what they have done to us, when it was us who invited or allowed it the first place.
Not giving yourself permission
It is your right to pursue what gives you joy. No one can tell you what feels good for you – watching a TV show, enjoying food at your favourite restaurant, listening to a certain type of music or going for a walk. Whatever it is, it is yours. Taking time for you, regardless of how busy your life may be, allows you the opportunity to relax and recharge in a way that is uniquely you.
We all have the ability to be happy regardless of what has gone on in our lives. It is a choice and an action or several actions. When we are happy everything we do becomes a little bit easier. We feel lighter and have more energy and the quality of our relationships improve.
There are many, many ways to get happy and I have shared a few of them. So, now it’s your turn.
What’s your truth? What will truly make you happy? Will you be honest with yourself and those around you to declare your truth and then have the courage to pursue it?
It’s your time – go find your happiness!